Welcome to Autumndale Therapies
'You have taken the first step; now I challenge you to take another ...' (Dan Poynter)
Autumndale Therapies is OPEN and
accepting new clients for face-to-face appointments
as well as for online and telephone counselling
The facility to work online, means that counselling can continue uninterrupted in the event of any restrictions on face-to-face contact
~ it also enables you to continue to access therapy, wherever you may be,
in the UK or abroad ~
First appointments and single sessions are usually available within one week
'Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself' (Rumi)
Email [email protected] to contact me - and please check your spam folder, if you don't find my reply in your inbox
I'm around a lot of the time if you'd like a quick chat and I'd be happy to hear from you.
If I'm not about, do leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as I can
Here in the UK, Covid restrictions have now eased although the world perhaps continues to feel like a rather uncertain place to be in. Flexibility is required to accommodate a constantly evolving situation, other countries are at different stages of pandemic affect and there seems to be a host of other unsettling events going on
For many, the last eighteen months or so have been filled with trauma, grief and loss: as well as death itself of course, there has been the loss of freedom, of the familiar, of the ability to plan ahead, loss of work, of happily anticipated events, of health and wellbeing and perhaps hardest of all, the loss of human contact
So it feels propitious that helping people who have experienced bereavement, loss and trauma has been a major part of my work as a counsellor since its very beginning. This leaves me well-placed professionally, to offer relevant support to people in the aftermath of the pandemic, whilst continuing to work with those whose reasons for seeking therapy are completely unrelated to it
Fortunately work here has never had to stop, thanks to the help of technology: Zoom meetings have been introduced for some sessions; WhatsApp audio or video calls too
and face-to-face counselling sessions have now resumed
'The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains' (Paul Simon)
We all have an innate tendency for psychological development throughout our entire life span. Do get in touch if you would like to make an appointment for an exploratory conversation, to discuss how therapy might support you - email or landline is best - my contact details are on this page ...
I have worked with many people experiencing all kinds of issues over the years. Specialist areas for me are:
•bereavement, grief and loss
•low self esteem, low mood and depression
•attachment and relationship issues
•trauma and stress
•adverse childhood events
•highly sensitive personalities
•the pressures of illness or of being a carer
So, if you are feeling stressed or anxious all the time ... if you just can't seem to cope as well after the death of someone close to you ... if you are struggling to find motivation ... if you find relationships difficult ... if you seem to be stuck in a pattern of unhelpful behaviour ... if you are ill or look after someone else and just yearn to be heard as yourself rather than as the patient or the carer ... or if you find that events from the past are badly affecting your life now ... I invite you to get in touch to see if, through the therapeutic process, you can get to a place where your life feels more comfortable - a place you want to be and where you can begin to flourish and feel more content
... I can't wave a magic wand but I can walk alongside you, work with you, compassionately support you and offer you insights and strategies. I can help you to build more resilience so that the difficulties, which are an inescapable part of everyday life for all of us, feel more manageable
And most of all, I will give you my undivided attention - 'the most valuable thing you can do for another human being'
Ready to explore more about regular 1:1 therapy? Click here for more about my practice or use the menu above
The pandemic has had a significant impact on all our lives ...
... the last eighteen months or so may have felt extremely lonely and difficult to bear - full of challenges. Maybe isolation, health, relationship, child care, financial and/or employment issues have been - or still are - issues for you
Any issues that were around before the pandemic may still be around now and possibly feel even harder to manage; and there will inevitably be issues arising that are entirely unrelated to COVID-19
Perhaps you are a key worker and now need to process how your recent experiences have effected you; or perhaps you have been taking stock of your life and have decided that you need to do something differently in the future
Maybe you feel you need some help right now or simply that now feels the right time to begin to look for some support
Working collaboratively with you, I can support you as you grow in self-awareness and begin to discover how to live your best life
There is a great version especially for children too, so let me know which you'd like to receive (check your junk mail box, if you don't see my reply in your inbox!)
If you need urgent help...
... and are concerned about an immediate risk of harm, either to yourself or someone else, call 999
You could also call 111 or go to the accident and emergency department at your nearest hospital
If you have Crisis Line details, given to you by a health professional, do call the number provided
If you are already receiving support from NHS mental health services you should have a care plan. Your plan will include details of who you should contact in a crisis
If you can't find your care plan, contact your community mental health team and ask for your care coordinator. If you do not have a care plan then call your local crisis support services
If you need help but can wait until the next day then you could contact your GP who can direct you to the most appropriate NHS service
Outside of standard office hours, you can call the Samaritans free any time, from any phone on 116 123, from anywhere in the UK or the Republic of Ireland (or email [email protected])
Alternatively, text SHOUT to 85258 and you will be be put in touch with a trained crisis volunteer, who will chat to you via text
... whether you are feeling suicidal, simply want to talk or just need to know that someone is there with you
Click here for further suggestions, check out the Useful Contacts page or visit NHS Every Mind Matters or Mind - Coronavirus: we are here for you
... and for more information about my practice, read on:
Perhaps there's something on your mind - a worry or a sense of dissatisfaction? Some confusion or uncertainty? Maybe you are feeling low or anxious, overwhelmed or lonely? Sad - perhaps grieving? Or stuck in repetitive cycles of unhelpful behaviour ...
Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone independent of friends and family, no matter how well you get on - an experienced professional who will be objective and non-judgemental.
I will listen to anything you'd like to share, no matter how difficult, serious, sensitive or even trivial you're afraid it may sound.
A complimentary exploratory conversation will allow you to talk to me before making any commitment and help us to decide if we would like to work together
~ this beautiful short film describes how helpful talking therapy can be ~
Email or landline is the quickest way to contact me initially, as mobile reception here is poor
(Please check your junk mail box, if you don't see my reply in your inbox!)
Once we have agreed to work together, Zoom meetings can be used for therapy sessions. Landline and WhatsApp audio or video calls are also possible
I work with people aged 12yr and over - and I would welcome your enquiry, whoever you are and whatever your background.
I have current (2020) enhanced DBS and level 3 'Safeguarding Children' certificates.
I saw my first counselling clients back in 2013 and I am experienced in working with a very wide variety of issues as well as having specialist training in working with trauma, bereavement issues and the use of creative arts in therapy.
I have worked as a counsellor with a social housing provider, a bereavement counselling charity, a carer's support group, a family counselling organisation and a firefighters charity. I have also cared for elderly relatives and have a good understanding of what it is like to live with those experiencing significant physical illness as well as dementia, addictions and other mental health conditions.
Before becoming a counsellor, I was a clinical physiologist in the NHS, specialising in cardiology. Along the way, I have worked in a shop, as a primary school teaching assistant, as the caretaker of a swimming pool, an administrator in a hospice and also qualified as a reflexologist.
And I have three grown-up children and two dogs - but most definitely not a perfect or problem-free life!!
I use a humanistic and integrative approach and my personal philosophy is rooted in humanistic principles: I believe we have only one life and that we should each be able to have personal responsibility and autonomy, enabling us to choose to live ethically and well, albeit within our own personal limitations - and to compassionately support others to do the same.
My training has been a good fit with this philosophy and the overarching aim of my work is to empower clients and encourage their autonomy and agency in shaping their own lives, ultimately in ways that feel satisfactory to them - yet with the realism and acceptance that life itself is not always satisfactory.
Person-Centred roots support me in approaching clients with sensitive understanding - equal in our humanity yet as unique individuals, who are essentially OK, self-determining and with an innate ability to change and grow, at any age and stage of life.
My broad-based early training, further studies and ongoing continuing professional development allow me to integrate other approaches and techniques, as appropriate. I use a neuroscientific and trauma-informed perspective, including Polyvagal Theory, when needed.
As a humanistic and integrative counsellor, with my work underpinned by Person-Centred theory, we would work relationally with the issues you choose to bring - whatever matters most to you at the moment.
We would work together, to create a secure, warm and professional relationship in which you could feel able to explore your concerns, whilst being supported in your process of increasing self-awareness, personal growth and development. At times, this may feel like hard and challenging work and it does require your commitment.
Regular reviews during longer term work would help to ensure that the focus of that work remains relevant to your needs.
My physical practice is halfway between Petersfield and Liphook, on the Hampshire and West Sussex county border but, working online, we can meet from wherever you happen to be.
Click here or see below for further information about counselling and how it may help you ...
Counselling usually takes place weekly, over several weeks or longer, depending on individual requirements.
Regular sessions are often the most beneficial, although a single session may prove helpful and especially when we have worked together before.
Sessions last for 50 min.
My entire career has been spent in the health and wellness sector: I was formerly a clinical physiologist, specialising in cardiology and have also been a complementary therapist for a number of years, with a particular interest in reflexology, essential oils and the benefits of far infra red sauna use.
A sense of wellbeing springs from the union of a well-balanced mind within a well-balanced body. Physical issues may affect mental health and vice versa. Emotions are felt and held in the body as well as in the mind, so I will be just as interested in exploring how you feel physically, as how you feel emotionally.
Once here, parking is easy and my consulting room is comfortable and private.
Online or telephone counselling are also options.
Email or landline is the quickest way to contact me, as mobile reception here is poor (please check your junk mail box, if my reply to your email does not appear in your inbox)
Whatever has brought you to this page I am pleased to welcome you and hope that you have found something useful to take away.
Irish poet, author, priest and philosopher John O’Donohue wrote:
May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer,
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.
These are powerful words. But it is often very difficult to find the courage to face and create change alone. This is when talking to someone may be helpful ...
In his poem, The Road Not Taken, Robert Frost wrote:
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.
There is always a choice.
Maybe now is the right time for you to choose to speak and to be really heard; maybe you would like to have someone alongside you on your journey ... As Oprah Winfrey said, in her inspiring acceptance speech for the Cecil B DeMille Lifetime Achievement Award at the Golden Globes in 2018, 'Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool ...' It has the power to create change, in you and in others too.
If you are looking for a counsellor near to Petersfield, Liphook or Midhurst, do get in touch - my contact details are at the top of every page of this website and you can email me directly and in complete confidence.
You might also like to visit the Counselling Directory, the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) or the Hampshire Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (HACP) websites to search for therapists.
And your GP may be able to help too ...
A further option is to call helplines like The Samaritans (for anyone) on 116 123 or The Silver Line (for older people) on 0800 470 80 90. Or text to 85258, to reach Shout, a crisis text line. As mentioned above, these helplines are open 24 hours a day, every day.
Whatever you're going through, you can call the Samaritans free any time, from any phone on 116 123 (from anywhere in the UK or the Republic of Ireland).
If you need a response immediately, it's best to phone.
The Samaritans is a registered charity, which provides a confidential, off the record listening service, 24/7. Their aim is to offer support to anyone in emotional distress, struggling to cope or at risk of suicide. Contact them by following this link: Samaritans
You can email, write or visit a local branch, if you prefer. The nearest branch to Petersfield is in Portsmouth at 296 London Rd, PO2 9JN. Phone: 023 9269 1313
Visit the Samaritans for more information and alternative ways to make contact.You can reach The Silver Line, especially for older people, on 0800 470 8090. Listen to CEO of The Silver Line, Sophie Andrews' compelling and informative TED talk here or visit their website here.
Shout is the UK's first 24/7 text service, free on all major mobile networks, for anyone in crisis anytime, anywhere. It’s a place to go if you’re struggling to cope and you need immediate help. For support in a crisis, text Shout to 85258
HOPELineUK is for young people under the age of 35 who may be having thoughts about taking their own life and anyone who is concerned that a young person may be having thoughts of taking their own life. Contact them on 0800 068 41 41, text to 07786209697 or email [email protected] They are open 10am to 10pm on weekdays and 2pm to 10pm on weekends and bank holidays.
Counselling - sometimes it's just good to talk ...
As a counsellor, I work on 1:1 with adults and young people, aged 12 and over, either face-to-face or online/by phone.
The sorts of issues that counselling may help with include:
- Stress, inc. work, parenting or caring-related
- Low self-esteem
- Bereavement, loss and change
- Coping with illness
- Self harm
- Suicidal thoughts
In counselling jargon, I use a humanistic and integrative approach, sometimes incorporating creative, Mindful and CBT-based interventions if appropriate - but only if these ways of working appeal and seem relevant.
In plain language, counselling can provide you with an opportunity for self-exploration and examination of troubling issues and feelings in a confidential, non-judgmental and honest yet empathic environment. This facilitates greater self-awareness, which in turn can encourage personal growth and development.
My counselling framework is underpinned by Person Centred theory so my work is largely client-led and non-directive; in other words, we would work on the concerns that you bring and I would not tell you what to think or do; rather, I would support and encourage you in growing your self-understanding and discovering the changes that might prompt greater contentment.
The human brain is extraordinarily malleable and change is possible at any time of life. My aim is always to empower clients to bring about the changes that seem important for them, through my listening and enquiring skills as well as the power of a strong therapeutic relationship - something that is key to the success of any therapeutic encounter, whether in counselling or in complementary or conventional medicine. Carl Jung, the father of analytical psychology, said that:
People new to counselling are often mystified as to how it might work for them. There is much evidence to suggest that it is the quality of the relationship between therapist and client, whatever their modality (e.g. integrative, Person-Centred, Psychodynamic, CBT), that is the key to a successful outcome in the eyes of the client:
The idea is that a person can begin to see how their mind works in the unique relationship with the therapist: a relationship that is purposefully structured to make the person's psychology more apparent and a topic of exploration. Noticing, exploring and working through these emotional experiences in relationship with the therapist is a powerful mechanism of growth in therapy.
People who get the most out of therapy are those who are:
- willing to try to discern within themselves their feelings and reactions in talking with their therapist
- willing to share and explore those feelings and reactions with their therapist
Exploring these responses in the immediacy of the relationship with the therapist is considered a powerful mediator of change in therapy.
(The above is quoted from this paper: Self-Awareness, Transference & Counter-Transference by Michael E. Makekau, University of Hawaii - and is equally applicable to all counselling and psychotherapeutic approaches.)
As a practicing counsellor, I am an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Autumndale Therapies offers:
- Professionally accredited psychotherapeutic counselling, with an experienced therapist
- Holistic, humanistic, trauma-informed, compassionate approach
- Online appointments
- First appointments often available within one week
- A tranquil environment for face-to-face meetings
- On-site parking
- Discrete location, convenient from West Sussex, Surrey or East Hampshire
- Within easy reach of Petersfield, Liss, Bordon, Liphook, Haslemere and Midhurst
As a counsellor, I use a humanistic and integrative approach.
Humanistic psychology has been called the 'Third Way' in relation to psychotherapeutic work because it does not focus on past events and unconscious processes, as in psychoanalysis or psychodynamic therapy; or on how thoughts might influence behaviour, as in CBT - cognitive-behavioural therapy; it focuses on the unique experience of each individual and is underpinned by the belief that everybody, no matter what their circumstances or stage in life, has an innate tendency towards growth and development.
Carl Rogers was a well-known figure in the field of humanistic psychology and developed the Person-Centred approach, which underpins my way of working.
Carl Jung also focused on the uniqueness of the individual; he believed, among many other things, that crisis and breakdown were essential precursors to transformation and healing. His sense of the need for the individual to achieve 'wholeness' for their wellbeing sits comfortably with the view - my view - of the holistic nature of complementary therapies, such as reflexology. I believe that counselling too, should be holistic.
The humanistic counsellor aims to support clients along their personal development journey by offering a safe, non-judgemental relationship where they may explore any issues - thoughts, feelings, circumstances - that are of concern to them.
Humanistic counsellors are generally non-directive and client-led, encouraging autonomy and personal choice.
My integrative training allows me to utilise aspects of other approaches where appropriate and if they appeal to you - and of course if it seems that they may benefit the therapeutic process and do no harm.
If you think you might like to make an exploratory appointment, please get in touch.
My practice is easily accessible, whilst being tucked away in a peaceful corner of the South Downs National Park, in a small village near Liss. It is less than 4 miles from Petersfield and Liphook. It is also within easy reach of Farnham, Guildford and Haslemere in Surrey, Midhurst, Fernhurst and Chichester in West Sussex and Portsmouth, Bordon and Alton in East Hampshire.